Partners / Signers + Add Person
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The shape of us choose one Monogamous — each other's one. Monogamish — mostly, with allowance. Open — one heart-home, open bodies. Polyamorous — more than two. Relationship anarchy — no defaults. Undefined, for now — on purpose.
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Autonomy & togetherness any that fit Time alone is sacred. We keep our own inner rooms. Solo joy is welcomed. A standing time that is ours.
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How we talk any that fit A regular 'state of us' check-in. Hard things, said early and softly. Assume good faith; ask first. Silence to pause yes, stonewalling no.
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Care & home rhythm any that fit Shared labour & mental load, revisited when drifting. Our living shape is named on purpose. Care in hardship and illness is promised. Rest is supported, never guilted.
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Desire & boundaries any that fit Consent is ongoing & revocable. We keep our map of desires current. Curiosity welcome, pressure not. Ebbs in desire are met with patience, not panic.
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Conflict & repair any that fit Fight fair — no contempt, no scorekeeping. A time-out anyone may call. Repair over winning. Apologies are accompanied by changed behavior.
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Growth & evolution any that fit We keep meeting who the other becomes. Compersion for individual triumphs. This covenant is living — we revise it.
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Money & material security any that fit Money is open — no secrecy, no control. Major financial moves discussed beforehand. Shared security + personal autonomy.
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External connections & metamours any that fit Timely transparency with outside connections. Metamours treated with respect and dignity. Sexual health & screening transparency.
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Digital life & privacy any that fit Intimate media is sacred & confidential. Social media posting boundaries respected. Protected device-free connection windows.
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The graceful exit any that fit If we end, we end with dignity. To part honestly, and help each other land. To divide what we built with care.